“You can do anything, but not everything”- David Allen, founder, Getting Things Done.
Why is it that although we can juggle a million tasks magnificently, we still manage to feel guilty about the things we can’t fit in; not getting enough exercise, not joining your team for lunch, not collecting your child from school on occasion…
How can we alleviate the pressure we place on ourselves and the guilt this creates? Here are a couple of ideas that work for me to get you started.
List it! Being organised will help you feel more in control and help everything else fall into place. The smallest things can help; calendars, diaries, and my favourite – lists! Make a single ‘to do’ list, but add a column with a ‘when by’ header. This helps you see just what needs doing, so you can put it all in order. Use a spreadsheet for this, or your task bar if you work on Outlook. A paper list gets lost, written over or covered with coffee circles too fast!
Prioritise and be realistic. If something keeps slipping down your list, ask yourself why? Does it really need to be done? Does it need to be done by you? Which leads me to:
Get help. It’s not all about you, you know! Encourage those at home to do their fair share, take that colleague up on their offer of assistance, and let your mum do that enormous pile of ironing she keeps hinting at! Don’t feel guilty asking for help – you are not a super hero. And if things really start to snowball – call in the professionals. A part-time PA can bring order to your work and home life, releasing you for the really urgent stuff!
Be present and be positive! Yoga taught me this and I shall be eternally grateful! It may sound a cliché, but reminding yourself to live in the moment can be a powerful tool. Worrying and feeling guilty about the past or future is unproductive and will feed negativity. Feel proud of the things you do achieve, instead of focusing on the things you don’t.
So take off that guilt halo, pop the kettle on, start that list…. and smile!
Written by Pink Spaghetti South Hampshire